Showing posts with label My Life With a Consistent Boyfriend in High School. Show all posts
Showing posts with label My Life With a Consistent Boyfriend in High School. Show all posts
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Fight or Flight?
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Kathryn
When you are in a relationship with someone you have to decide many times throughout your relationship if it is worth it to have a fight or if it is even worth fighting about.
Fight or Flight. If you two are fighting about the fact on who should pick the movie or what you guys should do that night, I would suggest you flight. But if you two are fighting about how each of you treat each other, I suggest you talk it out.
It's all based on if you think it is worth it enough--If what you guys are fighting about in the end really matters. I know that with my boyfriend if I feel that something is wrong I will convince myself to tell him, and if I think it's not worth it then I will not. You see with me, I have a really hard time talking about certain things with him. Like bringing it up takes me forever. We will just sit for like 5 minutes until I get the courage to tell him. So I know if it's worth it I will tell him, because why would I go through being vulnerable when it's unnecessary.
I will admit I have fought about the unnecessary stuff all the time, but I am trying to let it go. Trying to choose between the things I feel that are important. The things that are important that can better our relationship. Because as girls, we can sometimes blow things out of proportion, yet we think they are justifiable, because we either feel insecure, angry, hormonal, stressed, jealous, or just even sad. We have to look at the bigger picture. We have to fight for what is right. Choose your battles, and in the end the things you stick up for should better your relationship, or let you know what you want in a girl/guy.
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Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Jealousy
Jealousy- is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, sadness, and disgust.I have to work with jealousy on a daily basis. It is one of the hardest things to try and ignore. You see a girl in the hallway that is just drop dead gorgeous, and you compare what you look like to their appearance. Then you are filled with sadness, because to you, your appearance does not even compare and you automatically want to look like her. Another example is when you see a girl flirting all over your man. The "anger" jealousy sets in. All your thoughts surround the fact that you just want to physically hurt this girl, but then you realize that your boyfriend is just letting her flirt with him (he probably does not even realize what this girl is doing) So you start becoming sad, and once this phase passes it's on to disgust. This happens to guys too.
Jealousy has become just a normal thing with people that they do not even realize they are harping on the stuff they do not have instead of being happy for what they do have. I realize this is easier to say then actually put in motion. You can always say that you are going to be less critical on yourself, but you have to actually believe it if you want to change how you think and feel.
Ever since my boyfriend and I hit the point where we decided not to make out I have noticed myself getting more and more jealous of every girl who walks in his vicinity. It's become so bad that I am always thinking the worst. For example when he told me that his work schedule got changed I automatically thought that it was because the girl he works with wanted him to work when she works, even though I knew that was the most bizarre thought ever. So it just goes to show you how much jealousy can control your thoughts, and I personally think that to stop being jealous you have to convince yourself that you are exactly the way God intended you to be and deep down you are beautiful. It sounds incredibly cheesy, and something your mother would tell you, but it is true.
The jealousy about other girls going after your girlfriend/boyfriend--just think the only reason you two are together is because you both keep choosing to stay with each other. So to be jealous of another girl/boy because they are all over your person just say to yourself he is choosing to be with me, not her/him. This way you wont let the jealous thoughts run your life (:
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
My Consistent Boyfriend Continued...
I think the best part about mine and my boyfriend's relationship is that we are both Christ Believers. We go to the same youth group, and enjoy the same things. We make our relationship based on Christ. We've decided that we do not want to engage in the physical side of a relationship. He decided after awhile that when you make out with someone you are making out with someone's wife or husband, and that there are way to many temptations. I agree yet it is not the easiest thing being surrounded by the media where sex is the only thing they advertise, and where you are constantly surrounded by high schoolers who are all over each other. But it is probably the healthiest thing for our relationship. We do not have that physical temptation that can screw up a healthy relationship. We do not have all the drama. We are just two people who enjoy each other's company, like each other, and just want to learn from one another.
I am so grateful to have a guy like him. My relationship is the best. I love being with him. He is my best friend, and I would not want to be with anybody else right now.
I am so grateful to have a guy like him. My relationship is the best. I love being with him. He is my best friend, and I would not want to be with anybody else right now.
My Life With a Consistent Boyfriend in High School
I see High School relationships as a way to get to know each other, and learn about yourself. Also, to help each other grow closer to God.
In my relationship with my boyfriend we are constantly learning from one another. He helps me become the best person I can be, and I hope that I am doing the same. I've learned so much about myself. I learned about my weaknesses, strengths, insecurities, and what I want out of a relationship. He helps me strengthen my relationship with Jesus and we keep each other accountable.
I do not feel that high school relationships need to be so serious with all the I love you stuff. I mean for some people, they are maybe, at that point in their relationship. I have a friendship love for my boyfriend, and I like him a lot. But it is not at the I love you-so I want to be with you forever stage. High school relationships are a place to get to know each other, and find out more about yourself and the person you are dating. If it lasts beyond high school you are moving into the I love you, and I want to be with you for forever stage.
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